IS IT LOVE? OR WHAT IS IT?

A close friend of mine gave me a journal years ago and inside it, she included excerpts that pertained to her favorite life lessons regarding how to live, how to love, and how to decipher what one is feeling. This below is one of my favorites, and a good check list to cross reference any relationship you may be unsure about :)

Is it Love??

Are your palms sweaty, is your heart racing and is your voice caught within

your chest?
-it isn’t love, it’s like.

You can`t keep your eyes or hands off of them, am I right?
-it isn’t love, it’s lust.

Are you proud, and eager to show them off?
- it isn’t love, it’s pride.

Do you want them because you know they`re there?
-it isn’t love, it’s loneliness.

Are you there because it`s what everyone wants?
-it isn’t love, it’s loyalty.

Are you there because they kissed you, or held your hand?
-it isn’t love, it’s low confidence.

Do you stay for their confessions of love, because you don`t want to hurt
them?
-it isn’t love, it’s pity.

Do you belong to them because their sight makes your heart skip a beat?
-it isn’t love, it’s infatuation.

Do you pardon their faults because you care about them?
-it isn’t love, it’s friendship.

Do you tell them every day that they are the only one you think of?
-it isn’t love, it’s a lie.

Are you willing to give all of your favorite things for their sake?
-it isn’t love, it’s charity.


Does your heart ache and break when they`re sad?
-then it’s love.


Do you cry for their pain, even when they`re strong?
-then it’s love.


Do their eyes see your true heart, and touch your soul so deeply it hurts?
-then it’s love.


Do you stay because a blinding, incomprehensible mix of pain and
relation pulls you close and holds you there?
-then it’s love.


Do you accept their faults because they`re a part of who they are?
-then it’s love.


Are you attracted to others, but stay with them faithfully without regret?
-then it’s love.


Would you then give them your heart, your life, your death?

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If, for some reason, you don't find your soul mate this weekend, consider Wednesday night's swank Single & Fabulous Event, Rock the Boat, on the Biscayne Lady yacht docked across from the Eden Roc on Collins Avenue. Gals about town Tiffany Rosen and Erin Newberg will share Julie the Cruise Director duties while you enjoy Patron tequila, Ultimat vodka, Pyrat rum and Blue Moon beer as well as food and live music by Cleaveland Jones and DJ Johnny the Boy. For those with love lives as rocky as a three-hour tour on the high seas, don't worry. The yacht will remain docked the entire night so no need for Dramamine. Tickets are $30 in advance and $40 at the door with a portion benefiting A Better Miami Beach Charity. Among the event's partners, the Walk of Shame Kit. So much for subtle innuendo. Party starts at 8 and ends (on the boat, anyway) at 11. For tickets, e-mail Tiffany@fabulousalways.com

The Launch of Single & Fabulous

I looked at the clock in the dimly light bedroom of the Hotel Victor penthouse. 6:10 PM. I looked at myself in the mirror. No makeup; hair in a pony tail; and dress hanging on the closet door. The girls from Fashionista strolled in just in time; ran a curler through my hair and in less than two minutes it looked like I had just stepped out of a salon! (I know I'm stealing that from some old hair commercial..)

7 PM rolled around and I was shocked that there were already guests downstairs. People actually on time for an event...in Miami??? It was then I knew Single & Fabulous was going to be an immense success.

I could go on and on about the details of the night which I really can't say was anything out of the ordinary, but what I can say, and what I do believe is extraordinary, is that for the first time, I was amongst a large group of single, good looking, SMART, accomplished individuals - all gathered in a beautiful penthouse suite, all dressed impeccably in black and white attire - and NOT ONCE didn't feel like I was at singles event.

And that my friends, is what makes it FABULOUS.

Fabulous Always...And not single for long! :)

A genius friend of mine uttered the following words during a phone conversation earlier this evening. When talking about the art of dating (also, the art of survival) she spoke the following phrase, "Listen girl, we're fabulous always and not single for long!" And I realized that this was it! It's not only about being Single&Fabulous...it's about being Fabulous Always.

Below is a list of reasons why one should be proud to be single; I found this on a random site, but found it both comical and informative..

ENJOY! :)

Below are 10 reasons why you must proud to be single;

#1. Saving phone bills

The best thing you can acknowledge first is your phone bills; a great depression, since there will be no more stupid ridiculous 10 times a day of “hi babe, what are you doin’?” phone call and hundreds short messages sent per week of “love you hun.” Now you are completely safe from searching and writing another commercial ads love poem through your mobile. How fantastic!

#2. Saving money

You must absolutely very happy for this, especially if your ex is a fanatic of separate-bill-ism.

#3. Free of Mind

No more worries and jealousy. You can stop questioning why your lover was acting so weird, didn’t reply your message, or gave you a ring. Thank God you’re single!

#4. Spread some love, baby!

Love isn’t dedicated to couples only. Spread some love to your parents, boyfriends, girlfriends, siblings, relatives, or even strangers! Let the love leads you to an uncategorized world of happiness. Say YEAH!!!

#5. Get a new look!

Getting bored with your current look? Get a new one, with no doubt. If ionic re-bounding is so yesterday, get a sassy digital wave. If black is no longer your favorite color, let’s turn it into brunette or golden light brown with some platinum highlights. Having more money to splurge? Neiman Marcus will provide you enormous choices.

#6. Hanging out with posse

Spending quality times with friends probably easier when you’re single than committed. You know for sure, dating was everything that time. But now, you’re back to market! Never missed updates on gossips and infos about current trends and good looking guys around, or you’ll be sorry like hell.

#7. You, Yourself, and Your Dreams

Jot down your priorities into a list. Check and find out what you were missing. Maximize your potentials and efforts to reach your dreams cos nothing else matters!

#8. Breaking the Habit

Lovers’ routines; going out on weekends (mall-to-mall, how boring!), watching movies at cinema (no matter how bad the movies get rated), and having double or triple meal time and screwing your diets. It’s the right time to break the habit on weekends; clubbing, doing some sports, or sleeping! Ah-ha.

#9. No more drama!

Based on my observation as well as my personal experience, relationship is all about drama. It has a leading actor and actress. You throw your prettiest smile as if you were happy with your partner; when in fact, your partner often embarrassed you in front of public with his/her bad sense about fashion, bad manners, or even worse, always bullshitting. Can you imagine how many episodes you could take longer?

#10. Say What You Want!

Stop crying and blaming yourself for being single! Head up high and tell the world you’re proud to be single for so many reasons above. Don’t you think that’s enough? *grin*

Repeating Patterns

I just walked in the door a second ago and was welcomed to a pile of mail; some bills, some catalogs showcasing outfits I want but can't afford and course the makeup and perfume that I want; but definitely don't need. And buried underneath it all, not one, but TWO engagement party invites.

On my drive home from the beach, I started to think about a lot of things...about who I am now, who I was, and who I want to be. I noticed that no matter how much I "think" I've grown up, or how much I know, or how much "experience" I have, that there are patterns that always remain the same.

Now, the question is, do you try to change these patterns or do you live to learn with them?
I think sometimes in relationships, girls and guys tend to encounter the same problems and most of the time, in a more self-destructing manner, say to his/herself, "What did I do now? Why do I keep making the same mistakes?

But then again, a very close friend of mine brought something very interesting to my attention - perhaps it's because she studied psychology, but regardless, she said, "You know I think the issue with relationships is that people start treating relationships, like marriage."

And something totally clicked. Haven't you heard the story over and over from your friends about how it was great until they made it official? It's because all of a sudden, with the word "in a relationship" comes a new set of "expectations."

I think if we all just learn to just let things be, and not expect anything, we may be able to break some of those patterns.

Stay tuned, I'll let you know if it works for me! :)

Single & Fabulous Launch Event - "A Return to Possibility"

With the launch of Single & Fabulous, I want to really try and create something that circumvents the typical "Miami" view of friendship, dating, and obviously relationships. Everything here is so superficial, smoke and mirrors - whose driving what, what new phone you have etc that I wanted to use this event as kind of kick-back to chivalry; to the days when all guys opened the doors for girls, where girls dressed classy instead of trashy; where getting done up meant putting rollers in your hair and dark lipstick instead of implants and collagen injections; where guys got a girls number instead of BBM pin...I think there is a demand for something real and people in Miami are yearning to find a cultural oasis in a desert of superciality. In short as Engima put it in one of my favorite songs, I would like the launch event and all events to follow for Single&Fabulous to illustrate a "Return to Innocence" - or better yet...a return to possibility....

The launch event for Single&Fabulous will be an exclusive invite only event.
Dress code will be strictly enforced.
7:00 PM Wednesday, January 14th
Hotel Victor Penthouse

xo

Things that make you go hmmmm....

So, it's about 1:53 AM on a Monday night and some might wonder what it is I'm doing up so late. But in my mind, the better question is, what am I NOT doing. When you're single and fabulous, there's so much to do and not enough time! That's the strange thing about being single - you have almost WAY too much time to focus on yourself; that it turns into over analyzing of yourself; how you look; what you're doing; what you're not doing; what you should be doing and so on.

Did you ever notice that when you are in a relationship, how all these thoughts evaporate into thin air and start to revolve around one thing - the other person.

Now, this may not be true for everyone. I salute those who can have a boyfriend and NOT want to be with them, and NOT care about their feelings; but I can assume that 90% of the human population is different.

Although there is an "I" in both SIngle and RelatIonshIp - notice the I stands alone in one of the two ;)